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Monday, December 28, 2009

A Blue Moon Welcomes the New Year...New Decade...What Could This Mean To Your Life? Life Coaching Activities Thoughts

Three days to the New Year. Blue Moons. New decades. What does this mean to Life?

We often here the colloquial term,'once in a blue moon,' yes and we know it means something rarely happening, a rare event, once in awhile, not often. How does this relate to a moon? A blue moon is said to occur when there are two full moons in one calendar month. This occurance is rare, so the term, once in a blue moon.

1. Are there blue moons in your life and work?
2. What do you do, how do you respond when faced with a blue moon or rare event?
3. A Full moon can light up the world on a clear night, not so when it is cloudy and dull. Are your rare events illuminating or dulling?
4. How can you take advantage of rare events in your life?
5. How can you help them light our way?

This New Year's eve will be unique in several ways; a Blue Moon will welcome in a new decade. How will you start your new year in a unique way? What is your Blue Moon?

Happy New Year! Happy New Decade! To all you Blue Moons, may they be clear and illuminating!

Coach Phyllis

A New Decade, Are You Ready? Life Coaching Questions and Life Coaching Activities For The Next Decade

Coach Phyllis

In three days we will be entering a new decade. Are you ready? The beginning of anything new allows us to reflect on the old, not just for reflection purposes but to find out what we learned and what we might want to change.

What did you learn in the last decade? What changed in how you work and live? Our answers may all be the same in some areas. I learned to ‘Google,’ ‘Ping’ use an iphone, Skype. Activities and knowledge that came about in the past decade.

I can now have my children visit me from any corner of the world, through Skype; library amounts of information are at my finger tips. What a decade! What’s next for our world? What’s next for you?

Life Coaching Questions and Life Coaching Activities as you take on the next ten years.

1. How many decades have you lived?
2. How old will you be in Twenty-Twenty (2020)?
3. What have you achieved/accomplished in the last decade? List them.
4 What have been your accomplishments in each decade of your life? List them.
5. What do you want to achieve in this decade? Make a list on paper.
6. What parts of life and work do you want to continue to build?
7. How will your life look in 2020? (That should be the decade of clarity and farsightedness!)
8. How do you create some of that 20/20 in this decade? What can you do to help you see your life more clearly?
9. List at least one goal or task or project for each of the coming ten years. One a year.
10.Create a step by step plan. It is your life.

Make 2010 your decade!

Coach Phyllis

Monday, December 21, 2009

Life Coaching Activities for Dealing With The Stress and Pressures of The Most Wonderful Time of the Year. Christmas, Holiday Season

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed.
Life Coach

Yes, we hear it everywhere, in song and advertising, over and over again we are told it is the 'most wonderful time of the year.' For some of us that may be true and then for the rest of us we think we have to make it the most wonderful time of the year...whatever that means.

It's a phrase that can cause much stress for many. 'Most wonderful time,' can bring with it the stress of the perfect gift, the perfect dinner, the perfect decorations, perfect, perfect. No one and no one thing is perfect.

This Christmas or holiday season, which ever term you use, make sure that the 'perfect' doesn't overwhelm.

Try these Life Coaching activies to try to bring the 'perfect state' of relaxation to you and family.

Activity One:
Right up front designate time for you and your family. Make sure there is down time from the hustle and bustle. Set aside time for board games and favorite family movies. No favorite movie,well now is a good time to start.

Activity Two:
No one is perfect,repeat this to yourself. You may need to hear this when cookies burn or lights fail to light. Try to go with the flow. Take a deep breath and repeat. No one is perfect.

Activity Three:
Get a little help from a friend, a grocery store. We are filled with the image of the perfect homemade cookies, cakes, pies. Remember Great-Grandma didn't work outside the house. Get a little help, try semi-homemade or store bought cookies and cakes. Santa won't know the difference.

The most importnat thing this season is to have relaxing time for you and your family, however that looks to you.

Enjoy and have a safe one.

Coach Phyllis

Next article on New Year's Resolutions

Top Ten New Year's Resolutions. What Fits My Life? Life Coaching Activities?

What's Your New Year's resolution? Wow, how often will you be asked that question over the next week? Have an answer? Where are you in your life?

The follwing list shows some of the popular areas that people focus on for their New Year's resolution. Remember that the change you want to make should fit your life.

Do you need to make any of the following changes? Chose One that's right for you. Don't get overwhelmed, take it one step at a time.

1. Quit smoking
2. Lose weight
3. Save money
4. Get organized
5. Start working out
6. Eat healty foods
7. Relax more
8. Reduce work stress
9. Spend more time wiith family
10.Balance work and life

Note: research shows that whichever change you want to make, your chances of success increase with planning.I always like to say, Plan, plan plan and persist!

All the best in the New Year. Check out my Life Coaching Clubs.

Coach Phyllis

Monday, November 30, 2009

How To Enjoy Christmas and Lessen Stress

So it is December 1st, a little over 3 weeks to Christmas Day. We continuously hear in story and song that it is the happiest time of the year, well if that is so, why are so many people stressed and exhausted on December 25th?

There is so much to do…… There is such little time and money……I want it to be perfect.

These are some of the answers and the reality of the Christmas stress. How then do you deal with, limit or eliminate complete this Christmas stress.

Life Coaching Activity to Deal With Christmas stress.

1. Planning is always the best way to reduce stress in any part of your life. So plan your days. Write up a schedule. Have family input.

2. Take time for yourself and family. This works just as well if you live by yourself. Do what I like to call a ‘snow day.’ Plan at least one day during the holidays where you don’t leave your home. Begin with a big breakfast where everyone helps. Follow this with board games, movies, reading, family activities. It can become a part of your family Christmas tradition.

3. In - house retreat. Schedule a time for you. Create your own in-house retreat. Make sure the kids, if any, know ahead of time that you will be taking 2-3 hours for yourself, in-house. Take a long luxurious bath. Read a book. Do your nails. Listen to soothing music. Whatever works for you.

4. Focus on the positives in your life. There are no two people alike in this world so don’t try to be like anyone else. Your life is your life at this point in time and just like an original painting you are unique. Take time at the end of the day to focus on the positive things in your life. They are there.

5. Slow down. The work life has become so busy. So much more is expected of us. Technology in our home creates more time for us while technology at work has the potential to consume more of our time. Take a few minutes each day to do some deep breathing; creative thinking, sometimes called ‘day dreaming.’ It can stimulate the brain and lower the blood pressure. Relax, enjoy your life at this moment.

Have a great day.
Coach Phyllis

Life Coaching Activity - Questions Direct Life Limit Stress for Life Coaches/Career Coaches/ School Counselors

I truely believe that questions direct our lives. Every action or task in life, no matter how small, is proceeded by a question. If the right question is asked it should help limit stress in our lives.

Activity: When faced with a project/task to complete at work or at home use the following life coaching activity:

Ask your client or have the client ask themself the following questions:

1. What is it I need to do today?
2. What is the first step toward achieving this?
3. Is this the appropriate time of day for this task? Would another time be better?
4. Is there something I can eliminate today inorder to complete this task. Priorize!
5. What is the next step?

Always ask what is the next step.
State next step clearly.
This helps in understanding the expected outcome and possible speed bumps along the way.

Have a great day.
Coach Phyllis

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Life Coaching Activities New Book

Good morning, coming from a background of curriculum,and program development I find it extremely interesting and rewarding to develop Life Coaching Activities which I would like to share with you. Each and every life coaching activity is grounded in theory, making the practice of life coaching more meaningful and results based.

I will be posting life coaching activities at least twice aweek and I invite you to use them for free.

I will be publishing my first Life Coaching Activities Workbook early in the new year. I will keep you informed.

Coach Phyllis

Work Life Balance Life Coaching Activities & Questions

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed
Life Coach

This is an article I published several years ago but I thought I would dust off and reprint. While some articles are seasonal or timely, the issue of Work/Life balance is a constant, because life is constant.
Please use to reflect and maybe adjust your life.

The term, Life Work Balance, has been around for years but probably has never been more important than right now. Technology in all its many forms was created to improve our lives however recent advances in technology may at times blur the line between work and the rest of our life.

How is your Work/Life balance?
Work/Life Balance Activity
1. Keep a daily log for one week.
2. Note the number of hours worked.
3. Note the number of hours with family,friends, exercising....outside of work.
4. Compare the number of hours at work and time in other areas of your life.
5. Are they they balance?
6. Where do you spend most of you time?
How is your Life/Work Balance?
I would love to get your comments.
Coach Phyllis

Friday, November 6, 2009

Life Coaching Thoughts at the End of The Week

Today's quote:

"Continuous effort, not strength or intelligence, is key to unlocking our potential.
Sir Winston Churchill

Think about this quote. Does it have any meaning for you? Does it have any meaning for the people you work with?

Have a great weekend. Take time to enjoy.

Coach Phyllis

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Time, Is On Your Side - You Have Control

Good Thursday morning. Where does time go? November 5th. 2009.

The number of hours of daylight are less this time of year but we still have the same number of hours in the week, 168.

How are you using your 168 hours?

Check it out. Take a few minutes to explore how you are using your hours.

Make a wrtten note of the hours at work, fitness/exercise, family time, tv, reading etc.

Do you have any extra hours?
What's left over?
How can they be used?
Can schedules be moved around to make your percious time more efficient?

Do this for one week and see what discoveries you make.

Have a great 24 hours.
Coach Phyllis

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Passion, Power, Purpose The Life of a Career Practitioner

Good morning, welcome to Wednesday!

I had an opportunity for the past two days to spend time with a group of very dedicated front line career practitioners and the passion with which they approach their work was energizing for me. They made me think of Power, Passion and Purpose, the parts of life that keep us moving forward even when things get difficult, be that at work or in life.

They are to their clients as Emersons says, "someone who will inspire."

"Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be."

Have a great day,
Coach Phyllis

Saturday, October 31, 2009

Oh The Weekend! Time For The 3 Rs - Relaxing, Reflecting,Regenerating

The weekend has arrived. If your work schedule gives you the weekend off well it is time for the three Rs.

You have worked hard all week. Give the body and mind a break. Whatever form of relaxation works for you, take time to do it.


My favorite time to reflect is very early morning just as the sun is rising. Pick a time of day for your reflection. It is amazing the discoveries you can make about you.


It is time to restore our physical and mental energy. Life can be draining. Regenerating for me is a walk in nature, a workout at the gym or a good book. Regenerate in a way that works for you.

Above all, enjoy your weekend and your life.

Coach Phyllis

Friday, October 30, 2009

It's Friday- the End of the Week/ End of the Month

Today's Quote:

"We can do anything we want to do if we stick with it long enough."
Helen Keller

It is not only the end of the week but the end of another month. So how did you do with tasks and projects you planned to complete this month?

Check your list.
Which ones got started?
Which ones got completed?
Reward youself for the work that was well done.
On Monday review and revisit tasks to be completed.
Make a new timeline/completion dates.
Get started, take the first step.

Plan, plan,plan.

Have a great weekend.
Coach Phyllis

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Procrastination - No Time For That

Today's Quote:

"The beginning is half of every action"
Greek Proverb

It's Thursday, are there projects or tasks that you need to complete before the end of the week? Many of us procrastinate when it comes to areas of work that we least enjoy. I have found that facing these tasks head on and getting them completed and out of the way the first part of the day clears up creative space in your head. Makes life and work more enjoyable.

If beginning is half of every action, just get started.

1. What's your very first step?
2. What's next?
3. And after that?

Have a great day,
Coach Phyllis

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

A Positive Mental Attitude in Life and Work Helps Create Success

Quote of the Day

"A positive mental attitude is the single most important principle of the science of success." Napoleon Hill

It isn't always easy to stay positive especially when we are faced with all the media attention to the down turn in the economy,downsizing, unemployment and now on top of that the H1N1. It seems to be a fall of a combination of bad weather and bad news.

Questions to help create a PMA.

1. Do you see the glass half empty or half full?
2. Is your self-talk positive?
3. Do you choose to be positive at work today?
4. Do you choose to be positive at home today?

Have a great day.
Coach Phyllis

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Focus On Your Wins - Success Creates Success

Good Tuesday morning. My first thought this morning when I looked at my calendar was,two months from today we will be eating leftover turkey. Time flies.

Two months left in the year 2009. Did you accomplish all you set out to do back on January 1st 2009? Did you accomplish part of what was in your Life Plan for 2009?

Take a few minutes today to reflect, if you would, on what you did accomplish, your Wins. We can so easily beat ourselves up for not completing tasks. For a short time today make a wriitten note of what you did accomplish at work and in life over the past 10 months.

1.Focus on your wins.
2.Wins come in all sizes.
3.Write them down.
4.These are your successes.
5.Reward yourself for accomplishing so much.

Have a great day,

Coach Phyllis

Monday, October 26, 2009

NLACP - Career Practitioner Conference

Good Monday morning! I attended the very first Newfoundland and Labrador Career Practitioner Conference this weekend. As I drove home over a very wet and windy highway I reflected on the strides that have been made in the career development area in our province, amazing. But I feel even more amazing was the intensity and the desire I saw in the eyes of every career practitioner for this information,knowledge and confirmation.

As my highway drive continued,I recalled all the words that were repeated by presenters. This was good because we were getting similar messages. I heard words like, planning, personal, hope, self esteem, career continuum, opportunity, success, positive, vocation/calling and many more.

So much fantastic information. So many words. Now what? Next step?
How do use all of this? What one(two/three) piece of information did you get from the weekend?
Make a note of what stayed in your head. Write it down.
What is it about this piece of information that resonated with you?
How will it fit in to your everyday work?
How can it help you work with your clients? Write it down.Use it.
Review in a week. Use it. Review.

Today's Quote:

"If you think you can or can't, you're right."
Henry Ford

Have a great day,
Coach Phyllis

Thursday, October 22, 2009

A Life Plan, Do You Have Your Life Plan?

We need plans for every part of our life. We make plans daily for what to wear, what to eat, where to eat, the list goes on. But do we plan for the most important and precious thing we have...our Life.

Today's Question:

Do You have a Life Plan? What will your life be like in 5 years? 10 years?


"Our aspirations are our possibilities."
Robert Browning

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Daily Question and Quote Oct.21

Good morning. Regardless of how or where we work, most workdays can bring a challenge. I wanted to begin this day with both a question and a quote, not necessarily related but hopefully thought provoking.

Today's Question:

What would you do in your life and work if you knew you could not fail?

Today's Quote:

"The beginning is half of every action."
Greek Proverb

Have a great day!
Coach Phyllis

Monday, October 19, 2009

October Monday Morning Work Hints and Planning

It always seems more difficult to get moving on Mondays especially when the sun isn't shinning which it isn't this time of year for a lot of us in the north and northeast.

If Mondays usually feel like this for you, you might try the followng:

1. Take time on the weekend to plan your Mon-day.
2. Ask yourself what motivates you and add a little to your Mon-day.
3. If the day looks or feels dull, wear at least one bright piece of clothing to work.
4. Take a few minutes during the day to revisit in thought a summer vacation. Recall just how relaxed you were.
5. If possible go for a walk at lunch time, good for the body and the mind.

Have a great Monday!
Coach Phyllis

Sunday, October 18, 2009

How Do You Choose to be Today? Questions to Direct Your Day

It's Sunday, Oct 18th, 2009; how do you choose to be today. Much of what happens to us in life is about choice. When we awake in the morning to face the day we make a decision on how that day will be for us. Sure we can't control the obstacles or speed bumps that are placed in our way but we can choose how we will repond in these situations.

Will you choose a positive or negative response?
Will you see the glass have full today or half empty?
Will you smile more and frown less?

It is yours to choose. Choose wisely.

Have a great day! Chat on Monday.

Coach Phyllis

Saturday, October 17, 2009

Helpful Hints for Parents: The Power of Compliments and Your Child

It is six weeks into the new school year, check in time; how is your child doing in school? Have you asked?Have you received any reports?

Regardless of your child's age school can be a difficult place at times. Plan each day to talk to your child. Allow for a comfy place to curl up and ask how their day was. Listen carefully to what they say, give them positive feedback and follow up on any of their concerns. What may seem small and insignificant to you may be major in a child's mind.

Use compliments daily. Mark Twain once said, " one compliment can keeping going for two months."

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Thursday, October 15, 2009

Tips For Everyday Life

Welcome to my Life Coaching Blog!

I will be posting regular Tips, Activities and Hints for use in your Everyday Living. If you are a life coach, parent, career practitioner, business manager you should find these postings helpful as you are all in the area of personal or people development.

October 15th gives you a total of 77 days in this year or 1848 hours to complete a New Year's resolution. Revist, review and replan. Give it a try, what's the worse can happen? That's right, it can become a New Year's resolution for 2010 but at least you'll have the preplanning done.