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Thursday, April 4, 2013

Want To Be A Life Coach?

Want To Be a Life Coach?

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed.
Life Coach

I know it isn't too spring like in some parts but it is that time of year when we start to focus more attention to our next personal or professional project.

Have you moved into Spring mode? Got all your ducks in a row? Moving forward with your Plans?

Most of my clients want to make a change in their life, that’s why they hire a Life Coach. Some come to me with their idea well worked out but they are not moving forward. They are not taking the necessary action to move toward their goal. In their own words they say they want everything to be perfect.

If the great movers and shakers in the world had to wait until everything was perfect I probably wouldn’t have the technology to write this blog. Too many times we want everything to be perfect before we take that step to start our own business, change careers, show -off out latest invention, publish our book, or to deliver that workshop.

Waiting for Perfection may end lack of movement. I’m sure you have heard the phrase, "over analysis creates paralysis."

Just recently while on a teleconference, I heard a young woman say that she was ready and prepared to be a life coach but didn’t feel like one. How do you feel like a life coach? a pilot? a doctor? a model?

William James a great psychologist coined the phrase, ‘Act As If.’ His theory was that if you want to be something (occupation) determine just out how they behave and start acting like them. This is all related to the theory of how our thoughts determine our behaviors. “Acting As If” you had already achieved your goal.

Life Coaching Activities

Act as IF and see what happens. Here are some Life Coaching Activities to move you to who you want to be:

1. Use professional language when introducing herself.

2. Create a professional business card.

3. Develop a professional website.

4. Create a professional email address.

5. Have a professional picture of yourself on your website and LinkedIn.

6. Talk the talk (of Life Coaching) and walk the walk.

7. Believe in yourself.

8. Keep learning!

Act As If is a technique you can continue to use to build self confidence, attract clients and be successful.

You have all the power you need to do what you want to do or be what you want to be.

“If you can think it, you can achieve it.” Napoleon Hill

The next time you delay or stall on a goal try out “Acting As If” you had already achieved it. Put your mind into that space. Act as if and see what happens!

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Saturday, March 16, 2013

12 Life Coaching Questions to Move you to Action....Life Coaching Activities

12 Life Coaching Questions to Move you to Action....Life Coaching Activities

This is a repost of one of my most popular posts.

Both success and failure are largely the results of habit.”
Napoleon Hill

Each and every day brings with it a challenge, some bigger than others. It might be getting up an hour earlier in the morning to achieve a planned for goal or climbing the highest mountain in the world.

Each of these actions needs a first step.

The drive and motivation that you need is always within you, I know it doesn’t seem that way at times but it is there!

I offer you some Life Coaching Questions that may help you unstuck and Move you to Action.

These are questions from my book, Life Coaching Activities & Powerful Questions.

Please use and share with others. Pick one to ask yourself every morning. Pick one to ask yourself every night.

So ask yourself:

1. What do you really, really, really want?

2. Why do you want it?

3. What is success to you?

4. What does it look like?

5. How will you know when you have become successful?

6. How will you know when you have found it?

7. What is holding you back from getting it?

8. Do you believe you can get it?

9. What motivates you?

10. What are your intelligences and talents?

11. How can you make the greatest difference in your own life?

12. Who do you have to Become in order to achieve what you Want to achieve?

Take on this challenge everyday for several weeks and see if you can be Moved to Action!

Pick a question that feels good to you.

Get that Idea out of your head and Move it to Action!

Have a great day.

If you would like to have me work with you please email. phyllis

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Make it a Motivated Day!!!

Coach Phyllis

Monday, March 11, 2013

Happiness is........?

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed.
Life Coach

Thanks Subscribers for your input...a request for info on happiness came from several of you so I hope this helps.

Happiness is................

I think that some of you know that my first grandchild, a beautiful little girl was born 17 months ago and of course like any good grandma when I'm with her I love to play games. One that she favored at about 12 months was...If you're happy and you know it clap your hands."  This little activity brought her great joy.

If your 

As adults we sometimes forget that these two emotions, feelings are essentail to life and success.

We know happiness when we see it. We also know joy...but just how much happiness and joy are in your life right now?

What happened from the time you were learning to skip, play ball, twist that hoola hoop, skate or just hang out and laugh? 

You got busy. You have work to do. Families to take care of. Houses to clean. Places to go. Perople to meet.

Early on in my coaching career I had a male client in his early 50's who achieved all he could in his career...he was bringing in millions to his company. Why then you might ask would he want life coaching.  In his words..'he had lost all the joy from his life' and he wanted it back again. Life was no longer fun. He had trouble even feeling joy when he was with his children.

It happens!

We get so caught up in our To Do List, now To Do Lists are essential, I'm the queen of To Do Lists but we also need a LIFE.

Let's place on the To Do List a note to take time to laugh, have fun or just hang out. Now define what would make you laugh or feel joy. Here is a list that some of my clients use to restart their Happiness/Joy area of Life. These are also some of mine.

1. Get out in nature. Depending on where you live that might be your back garden, a city park or a golf course. Turn off your phone and walk slowly noticing sounds, smells, colors.

2. What was your favorite game as a kid? If you can still do this without harming yourself give it a try.  Share with your kids or grandkids. They just might be excited about a good old board game.

3. Watch a funny movie. Laugther is medicne for the body and spirit. :)

4. Spend time with a comfortable friend, family member.

5. Volunteer.  Giving always makes us happy.

6. Stop watching the TV news before you go to be...or stop watching completely for a week.

7. Last but not least............

No matter which activity you choose...Choose first to be Happy.

Make every day a Happy Day!!!!  Smile, Smile and Smile some more.

I offer a free consultation if there is any part of your life that your would like grow or change.
Love to hear form you.
Coach Phyllis

Wednesday, March 6, 2013

Which Life Coaching Activities Would You Like to Have?

Which Life Coaching Activities Would You Like to Have?

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed
Life Coach

Hi to all my subscribers!

Several times a year I like to ask you what you would like me to write about. Is there any aspect of your life that you would like more info on or a life coaching question you can use in your own life? Let me know.

Would you like information on any of the following Life areas? Email me.

Personal Growth

Send me an email with your thoughts or questions and I will do my best to answer in a will remain anonymous.

How many Parents/Grandparents do I have among my subscribers? I would love to know.

You can email me at

Enjoy the last of winter...spring is on its way!

Coach Phyllis

Monday, February 25, 2013

The Power of Self Talk

The Power of Self Talk

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed. 
Life Coach
Life Coaching Activities & Powerful Questions
Have you ever listened to how you speak to yourself an about yourself? I always say that if we spoke to friends the way we speak to our selves we would be alone most of the time.
Most of us are not even conscious of the language we use. Many times it comes from the language our parents used or we hear constantly from our friends.
Our self talk directs our life. No doubt you have heard the phrase you are what you eat, well I always say…you  become what you think…in other words the words you use, how you speak on a daily basis creates your life.   This is not just my thinking this has been proven that our language creates our future.
Have you ever been invited to a party and you moan and groan and say, ‘ I hate to go there , I know I’ll have a miserable time.’ And you do!
You may have also experienced the opposite…’Wow, I’m looking forward to having a great time at this party.’…And you do!
It has to do with your subconscious mind that directs 95% of your behaviors. It listens to what you say and is very obedient. It is like your computer..what goes in..comes out.
Life Coaching Activities & Questions
Here is a Life Coaching activity I use with my clients to help them focus on the self talk.
1. Pick up a little booklet, doesn’t have to be fancy.
2. Take one full week to note the language that you use. This will be language throughout your day, with family, friends and colleagues.  Write it in your booklet.
3. Take another week and do the same thing.
4. What do you notice? What language are you using in your daily life?
5. You may want to continue for another week to note your talk.
6. Now Change. If your talk is not 100% positive you need to Change.
7. Change your language and you will begin to experience changes in all aspects of your life.
8. Give it a try. Your Life will thank you!
Please use and share.
If there is a change you need to make in your life contact me. Let’s chat. I offer a free consultation session.
I offer both individual and group Life Coaching.

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

My Valentine's Day Gift for You!

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed
Life Coach

 My Valentine's Day Gift for You!

As a Life Coach the greatest tool that I use with my clients is the Question. ?

Socrates said that, 'it is not the answer that enlightens but the Question.'

Would you like to become more enlightened when it comes to love? How are you doing in this area?

As a gift to you, my subscriber, I am offering you 15 Life Coaching Questions & Activities for you to do a self check-in on your Love area.


Read the following Love Questions. Note your answers on paper or computer.

Do you need to make any changes in your Love area?

Valentine’s Day Life Coaching Questions

1. What is love?

2. How does it show itself?

3. In red boxes of chocolates? In a dozen red roses? Maybe.

4. Or is love shown in other ways?

5. How were you shown love as a child?

6. Did it only happen on Valentine’s Day?

7. How do you show love to your children? Grandchildren?

8. How do you express love to your spouse; partner?

9. If I asked them that question, what would they say?

10. On a scale of 1-10 with 1 being ‘almost none’ and 10 being awesome… much love is in your life right now?

11. How do you define love?

12. Do you love yourself?

13. How do you show self love?

14. Do you think self love is essential to give you the ability to love others?

15. Do you want and need more love in your life?

Wishing each of you all the love you deserve.

"Love yourself to the fullest and your life will be filled with love, always." Phyllis Reardon

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Monday, February 4, 2013

Self Love Equals a Healthy Heart

Self Love Equals a Healthy Heart

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed.
Life Coach

Loving Self leads to a healthy heart.  

The most important Love to focus on is Love of Self. If we don’t love our self we can’t possibly love someone else. Loving self, accepting self, nurturing self are necessary for a healthy self and a healthy heart.

1. If we don’t love our self we are filled with self hate which leads to Stress. 

2. If we don’t accept our self we filled with self doubt which leads to more Stress. 

3. If we don’t nurture our self we will suffer from lack of sleep and nutrition which also causes a Stress.

Stress can cause high blood pressure and heightened levels of cholesterol. Therefore lack of Self Love will cause physical Heart problems. So yes Self Love will keep you healthy.

 Let’s start this month with a big heaping of Self Love.

What are you going to do to Love yourself today?

I invite you to make a list of how you will Self Love.  Pick up a little booklet or use a calendar and each day note what you do for your Self. Show the Love to You!!!!!! Your Heart will thank you.

Start your Self Love Challenge. 

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Have a Self Loving day. You deserve it.



Thursday, January 31, 2013

Make It a Month of Self Love

Make It a Month of Self Love

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed
Life Coach

Many years ago I remember reading that inorder to love others we must love ourself first. However in much of my formal education and the culture in which I was raised 'self-love' was seen as being a negative trait...a person so called 'full of themself.' I was fortunate that within my family self-love was encouraged. I came to understand that self-love is indeed a necessity not only for loving others but for success in life and work.

As you start this month of Love start with Self Love.

Give it a try!

Everyday say something nice to yourself.

Look in the mirror and compliment yourself. Accept the compliment.

Self Love it key to your happiness, health and success.

You have heard me say before that your thoughts define your life. Start Loving yourself and watch the change!!!

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Monday, January 21, 2013

2013 New Year's Resolution?

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed.
Life Coach

Good morning and a big Happy New Year! Wow what a busy 2012 is has been. Was your's busy?

We had two weddings, my youngest son got married in June and and my second oldest son married in September. Oh yes and my granddaughter turned one in September... a memorable year!

How was your year? Busy and memorable too I'm sure. Isn't that Life?

I thought I would begin the first of my Blogs for 2013 with some quotes. Many times when I post a quote I will get responses from people saying that it was exactly what they needed to hear on that day. Quotes can be powerful.

We are now 21 days into the new year. How are you progressing with your Resolve? Do you have one? If not think about your Blog will focus on your Intentions and their role in directing you.

These are quotes that have worked for me in the past. Quotes that are not too heavy but hopefully thought provoking and help you with what you resolved for 2013.

If you like them, print them and post where you can see them. Please share with colleagues and friends.

Life Coaching Activity Quotes for Resolve

"Remember ...When something that you have to do comes into your thoughts….write it down."
Coach Phyllis

"You have to think about the big things while you are doing the small things, so that all the small things go in the right direction. " Alvin Toffler

"When you say out of sight, out of mind… this is not what truly happens… lingers in the mind. So deal with it." Coach Phyllis

"You have the most experienced planner in the world……….your brain". David Allen

" Your thoughts direct your Actions....choose your Thoughts carrefully"  Coach Phyllis

I would love to hear your favorite moitivation quotes, Please share in the Comment section.

Read these daily. Ask yourself just what they might mean to you. Post. Persist with your 2013 Resolve.

Have a great day!!!

I do individual and group coaching, let's chat to see if I can help you. I offer a free consultantion session.

Coach Phyllis