Eliminating Self Doubt Life Coaching Activities

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed
Life Coach

Life Coaching Activities

Just recently I  met a young woman who was brilliant and who would appear to have everything in life. However as we spoke it became very clear that she suffered from a high degree of Self Doubt.

She was stuck in her life and career and the reason being, she was uncertain and doubtful about her own ability to make the correct decsion. She was in what I call...a state of 'Decision Fear', all brought on by Self Doubt.

Self Doubt is a lack of confidence in yourself to make decisions or take action.

You were not born this way. Self Doubt comes from your experiences and interactions with other people.

The feedback or reactions you got from family and friends or teachers and classmates help determine your Self and if much of this feedback was negative or critical it may have caused you to develop Self Doubt.

Self doubt exhibits itself in the continuous questioning of a decision you have made or the inability to make that decision.

Self Doubt prevents people from moving ahead in life and can stop motivation from developing.

If you suffer from Self Doubt there are a few things that you can do to rid yourself of this negativity.

Life Coaching Activities for Eliminating Self Doubt

 1. The very first step is to recognize that you are a ‘Self Doubter’.

2. Next decide that you no longer want this to be a part of your daily life.

3. Each time you experience a Self Doubting episode, note it on paper. Write down all the negative talk. All the catastrophe that is in your head. Most of the time this is the only place the catastrohpe happens!

4.  Next, look at the Doubts that are created and determine if they are real. Ask yourself, “What is the worst thing that could happen if I take this action?”

5. Use self talk to build your confidence around the decision.

6. Make your decision.  Take action. Release any negative thoughts you have about your decision. Let them go.

 Make sure that you use this process every day, even with the smallest life decisions and in this way you will build your Self Confidence and lessen your Self Doubts.

Remember that you have all the power that you need to accomplish what you choose to do.

Trust in yourself!

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What decision will you make today?

Phyllis

phyllis@coachphyllis.com

What is Life Coaching? Life Coaching Activities & Powerful Questions

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed
Life Coach

“To be able to look back on one’s life in satisfaction is to live twice.”

Kahil Gibran

Many times when I am asked what I do and I answer that I am a Life Coach…I will get the question…what is a Life Coach?


For much of my life I was a school teacher, an occupation that needed no further explanation. A teacher taught. Everybody knows that. But as a teacher the work I did was that of personal development……helping individuals come to understand the degree of their human potential and assisting them achieve their goals.

My business card now reads Life Coach but the work I did as a teacher is very similar to what I do now.

I am passionate about helping people discover the depth of their potential…(sadly in today’s world much goes undiscovered) and I work with my clients to assist them in reaching the goals they define.


Life Coaching is all about getting people to achieve to their very best. It is personal and professional development all at the same time.

I can't help but ask, can one separate personal and professional development? Doesn’t it make sense that the greater the degree of personal development one has the more successful they will be in their chosen profession?

For me,

Life is Learning. Life is Change. Life is Challenge. Life is Amazing.

 
In the  following excerpt from my book Life Coaching Activities and Powerful Questions: A Life Coaching Activities Workbook   I answer the question, What is Life Coaching?



What is Life Coaching?

Life Coaching is a possibilities building relationship, between a life coach and a client, for the purpose of improving the client’s life and work.

Life Coaching helps individuals create the changes they want in all aspects of their life. It is a process that helps clients get unstuck and move plans forward to successful completion.


So we can say that:

Life Coaching is moving people toward success.

Life Coaching is a focus on the future.

Life Coaching is all about change.

Life Coaching moves people from idea to action.

Life Coaching is an ongoing relationship, between coach and client, which focuses the client on taking action toward the realization of their goals or desired self.

Life Coaching is a platform or vehicle for learning.

How Life Coaching Works

People hunger for positive change, but in their busy lives they find it difficult to take the necessary steps to make that change. Research has shown that the more clearly defined an individual’s future the more likely they are to achieve their goals. Clearly defined goals in work and life lead to more successful individuals and business. However, clearly defined goals of their own do not guarantee success, we have just to reflect on New Year resolutions. For the most part they fail not because goals were not clearly defined or individuals not successful people, they fail because the process or strategies they employed were unsound or unsuitable.

With a focus on the future, individuals are supported through the Life Coaching process in the development of successful strategies to implement and maintain desired life and work changes. The coaching process allows clients to stop everything they are doing and take a close look at their life; evaluate what they want and check to see the direction in which they headed.

Through a series of individual sessions, the life coaching process challenges, inspires and supports the client in achieving their goals, while at the same time holding them accountable.

Just by the very nature of human beings, we are more likely to complete tasks that are being monitored by another person. This is accountability, and it is built into the coaching process.

Clients are assisted in expanding the view they have of themselves by recognizing their own potential and clearly defining action or actions that will transform their potential into success.

Life Coaching is not counseling nor is it therapy.



“Most people know what they want but they don’t know how to achieve it.”

Coach Phyllis  

Life Coaching Activities

If you have an questions about Life Coaching or would like a complimentary session, please email me
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Success & Your Mindset...Life Coaching Activities & Powerful Questions

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed.
Life Coach

Life Coaching Activities & Powerful Questions


How do you choose to be today?


Is Your Mindset one of Success?

Did you know when you awoke this morning, you choose how your day would be?

This is true. You choose to happy or not. You choose to productive or not. You choose to be successful or not. You choose to be healthy or not, and on and on.

Sure things will happen that you didn’t plan; the alarm didn't work, the bus came  late, car won’t start, traffic will be heavy, snow covered roads will slow you down. These can make for a very frustrating ride to work or maybe not. It will depend on your Mindset.


Your mindset consists of your beliefs, attitudes and assumptions about the world.
Mind set is like a pair of eye glasses that create your view of the world.
Mind set influences how you react and respond to others and events in our life.


Norman Peale said:

“Change your thinking and you’ll change your world.”


Life Coaching Avtivities & Powerful Questions

What you think influences what you believe.
What you believe influences or determines your actions.
Therefore, how you think is crucial to your success.

How do you choose to be today?

Life Coaching Activities & Powerful Questions

1. Is your glass half full or half empty?

2. Is it a great day or an ok day?
 3. Are you full of hope or fear?
 4. Do you believe in yourself or are you filled with self-doubt?

5. Check a mirror, are you smiling or frowning?

You get to Choose. That's great news. You have full control over your Day.....Make it the best day it can be!!!

BTW, you won't get this one back.

Have a great one.

Coach Phyllis

http://www.coachphyllis.com/

My First Video Blog....Life Coaching Activities & Powerful Questions

Life Coaching Activities and Powerful Questions: A Life Coaching Activities Workbook

If you are a  new life coach or have been coaching for awhile, this book will be a great resource. Check out the Activities & Powerful Questions.

Coach Phyllis Reardon

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What Do You Want in Life? Life Coaching Activities for Health, Wealth and Happiness, the Good Life

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed.
Life Coach


What Do You Want In Life? Health, Wealth and Happiness, the Good Life?


I want, I want, I want!


If you have ever been around a young child you hear this at times but it seems especially pronounced at the supermarket checkout, you hear them say…I want, I want.


Does this stop in childhood?

No you know it doesn’t, it continues. Just about how often have you said this? I want a new car, a new condo, a vacation in the Caribbean, a new job, lots of money, the perfect body, the perfect husband/wife.


You get the picture!

But just what have you done to this point in your life to make it happen?

Do you have a Life Plan?

How do you think this WANT will materialize?



Life Coaching Activities for developing your life plan. The plan that will help you achieve your Life Wants.


1.List your Wants. Ask yourself, what do I really, really want?


2.For each “Want” make a list of micro actions steps to achieve this Want. Write them out on paper. This makes them real instead of being a nebulous form in your mind.


3.As you achieve each mini step, check it off. Keep asking yourself, what’s the next step, the very next step?


4.Determine a time line and date for achieving this “Want”. It is extremely important in planning to establish a time line, one that is appropriate and practical for you. This helps make you accountable for completing the determined actions.


5.List resources needed to achieve the Wants. What do you need to achieve your Want? How much time? What training? monies, help from others?


6.Review your list on a weekly basis. Weekly reviews will keep your Want in the forefront of your mind. Check your action steps and needed actions.


7.Use a concrete object as a reminder of the “Want”. An example, a car model if you’re “Want” is a car. Sticky notes, photos, other objects placed in a highly visible place.


8.Persist, persist, persist! All successful people have the great quality of persistence. Stick-to-it and you will make it happen!


Only You can make it happen!!!!

Coach Phyllis
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Want to Be A Successful Life Coach? Life Coaching Tips

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed.
Life Coach



You are ready, initial training is complete and now you want to be a successful coach.


But how?




‘Act as if’….. a process defined by the great psychologist William James, basically states:


That if you want to be successful, Act As If you are.


You want to be a Successful Life Coach so Act As If you are a successful Life Coach.

Your actions and behaviors should mirror those of a successful Life Coach.

Your Actions influence your Beliefs.

Act As If You are a Successful Life Coach.

You will believe it and so will others.


What does that mean?

1. Use professional language when introducing yourself.

2. Create a professional business card.

3. Develop a professional website.

4. Create a professional email address.

5. Have a professional picture of yourself on your website and LinkedIn.

6. Talk the talk (of Life Coaching) and walk the walk.

7. Believe in yourself.

8. Keep learning!



Act As If is a technique you can continue to use to build self confidence, attract clients and be successful.


You have all the power you need to be a successful life coach.

“If you can think it, you can achieve it.” Napoleon Hill


Have a successful business.

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Coach Phyllis
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All Life Coaches Need to Know This Answer...What Is Life Coaching? Life Coaching Activities & Powerful Questions

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed.
Life Coach



This is an excerpt from my newly published book Life Coaching Activities & Powerful Questions


Many times I'm asked, "Just what is a Life Coach?"

Most people understand the role of a coach in sport, be it hockey, rugby, swimming or golf. They however, struggle sometimes with the concept of Coaching and Life.


If we think about it, Life is the biggest game we will ever play. We are all on the team. We are not going to get a second chance to win the trophy. Our contribution that we make depends on us. We have the power and control to be the best Life Player that we can be.


The following is an excerpt from Life Coaching Activities & Powerful Questions



Life Coaching has offered me an opportunity to see and explore the world with a different set of eyes.

“The real act of discovery lies, not in finding new lands, but in seeing with a new set of eyes.” Marcel Proust.

I have come to learn and understand the words of Socrates,

“The enlightenment is not in the answer but in the question.”


Also I have discovered how powerful Questions can be in directing our life.

The process of Life Coaching that I use consists of a set of skills that if understood, practiced and used daily will enhance not only our lives but those whom we interact with at work and in life.

These skills consist of:

Success Strategies
Visioning
Strategic Planning
Self Belief
Communication
Persistence
Perception
Mind Set
Work/Life Balance
Attending/Focus
Personal Strengths
Positive Mental Attitude


Life is not simple nor is it easy. We need knowledge and support along the way to achieve to our full potential.



“Most people know what they want but they don’t know how to achieve it.”
Coach Phyllis



Be ready with your answer when you are asked the question, 'What is Life Coaching? You will get it many times!



My book will be upon Amazon by the end of October.

If you would like to know more about Life Coaching contact me phyllis@coachphyllis.com

Sunday Quotes ---- Food for Thought---------- Life Coaching Activities

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed.
Life Coach



As you start to make your Weekly Plan today, give some thought to the Quotes I have listed here.

These are some of my favorites. Take them and use them if they fit your life and your Life Coaching Activities.


Do you have a favorite quote?


I find that the more I have in my ‘Quote Bank’, I will be sure to find one to fit the many parts of Life. Many times a quote will summarize how I feel or start me thinking toward the action I should take.


Use. Share. Post.

Make them yours.


We can do anything we want to do if we stick to it long enough. Helen Keller



If people only knew how hard I worked, they wouldn’t be so amazed.
Michaelangelo



The beginning is half of every action.
Greek proverb



It sometimes seems that intense desire creates not only its own opportunities, but its own talent. Eric Hoffer



Our aspirations are our possibilities.
Robert Browning



Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other thing.
Abraham Lincoln



Most people know what they want but they don’t know how to achieve it.
Coach Phyllis



If you think you can or you can’t, you are right.
Henry Ford



Enjoy your day and plan well.Check out more of my Life Coaching Activities.

Coach Phyllis
www.coachphyllis.com
phyllis@coachphyllis.com

Thanksgiving in Canada ----- Life Coaching Activities

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed.
Life Coach


Although many of the First Nations in Canada had a long tradition of celebrating the harvest and giving thanks this time of year, the very first formally recognized Thanksgiving Day began with Martin Frobisher.

Frobisher and his crew had been trying to find a northern passage to the Pacific Ocean and to celebrate a safe return from that search Frobisher celebrated with a Thanksgiving celebration.

In the year of 1578 he held a formal Thanksgiving celebration in Newfoundland. This was one of the first Thanksgiving Days held in Canada.


You may not have taken on something as risky to personal safety as a search for the Northwest Passage but life can get very challenging at times and it can be difficult to see the positives or reasons to be thankful.

There exist as of recent years a full body of research based on Positive psychology; the basis of which states that the more positive one is the higher your degree of life satisfaction and the greater your wellbeing.


To me giving thanks, or let’s say, finding reasons to give thanks can be tied closely to Positive psychology…so why not give thanks....be positive...benefit greatly from this mind set.


Life Coaching Activities for Thanksgiving


1. If you don’t already have one, create a gratitude list. At the end of each day note at least one thing for which you can say thanks or be grateful.


2. This weekend or sometime this week email, phone or a drop a note to someone, possibly from your past, who was a help to you in your career or life. Won’t they be surprised! They may even copy your actions.


3. Daily, give a recognition to those at work or in your life who are integral to your success but sometimes are taken for granted.


4. Become aware of your personal health and abilities and give a thanks to yourself for all that you have accomplished.


5. Create a Focus of Gratitude. It creates a Positive energy and flow and benefits you and everyone around you.


Happy Thanksgiving!

For more information on Life Coaching or any of my workshops, please contact me. Phyllis@coachphyllis.com

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Life Coaching Questions Life Coaching Activities

Phyllis Reardon
Life Coach

Failing to Plan is Planning to Fail.

It's mid September, just another 4 days of summer, according to the calendar; do you have your plans in place for the Fall?

Today I offer you some Life Coaching Questions to help you direct your actions and set up a Fall Life Plan.

Purchase a Fall Planning Book....a note book from a local discount store or a fancy journal, you decide but make sure you have some sort of planner.

Copy the questions I have listed below into your planner.

Take time to answer each one and act up on them.



Life Coaching Planning Questions

1. What do you want to do this Fall?

2. What kind of plan do you need to put in place?

3. What is the best way to make this happen for you?

4. What resources (money/time/help)do you need to make this happen?

5. What's your first step?

6. What do you have in place to keep you moving forward?


Make your plan. Stay with it. Revisit.Persist.Revisit and Persist some more.


Coach Phyllis
www.coachphyllis.com
phyllis@coachphyllis.com

If you would like more info please contact me.

Getting Fit...Have You Got a Plan?...Life Coaching Activities

Phyllis Reardon

"Things rarely get stuck because of lack of time. They get stuck because the doing of them has not been defined"
David Allen

David Allen is an expert in getting things done.

You can be too!

It is all about Planning.


It is mid September again. That time of year when we store away the summer clothes and toys and our thoughts turn to fall activities.

Among the most popular....fitness programs.


I once taught a fitness class at a YMCA and was delighted each mid September to find my class filled with enthusiastic people. But inevitably by the end of the month my numbers shrank and by the end of Oct I had but a core group.

They were enthusiastic in the beginning. They had all the latest gym gear. They paid their money so they themselves must have made the decision to get fit.

What happened?

Years later, I realize that there has to be more than a desire to get fit, one most plan to get fit.

Whatever our goal in life....Planning is key to success.


If you are checking out fitness programs this fall, make sure you have a Plan to Succeed; if not you're wasting your money!

Have a great September 13th.

Coach Phyllis

Phyllis Readon M.Ed.
Life Caoch
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FREE E - Book...Building Self Confidence Life Coaching Activities

Phyllis Reardon M.Ed.
Life Coach


FREE E - Book...Building Self Confidence Life Coaching Activities

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I have used these life coaching activities with many of my clients. Try them out. Share them with friends and family.

Make them a habit and Build your Self Confidence.


Coach Phyllis
www.coachphyllis.com
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Labour Day 2010 Life Coaching Activities

Phyllis Reardon
Life Coach

Labour Day for most of us is a holiday, a long weekend before school begins. For me, having four children, it was a busy weekend preparing for the first semester of school.

Labour Day in the US and Canada

Labour Day in the US and Canada began in the early 1880s, having its origin in the labour unions. It was a day set aside to recognize the work of labour groups. It has in recent times become recognized for honoring the contributions of all workers.

Work Evolves

If we were to look closely at how work has evolved over the centuries we would see it move from agricultural base, to industrial and now to a knowledge based economy. Brawn has been replaced by brain as prerequisites for most work today in the 2010s. Think about it, most places of work now have some form of computer in the work place. Knowledge is key.


Work is essential to life

In our society work defines just how productive you are as a member of this group. Isn’t it so true that when you meet someone for the first time one of the first questions you are asked is, ‘so what do you do?’ meaning what is your line of work.

All Work is Valuable

All work and workers add value to our life. I have often met women who say, ‘I’m just a ……’. Whatever. They are not placing value on their work in life. All work is valuable. As workers we need to see the value in what each of us offer.

Give that some thought.

List the value you add by your work.



Whatever your work, enjoy this day and celebrate your contribution to the world.

Phyllis Reardon
Life Coach

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Life Coaching/ Career Coaching LinkedIn

The global market is up on us and more and more we have opportunities to connect with business colleagues thoughout the world. On a daily basis I use LinkedIn for my business. To me it is the ulimate network event. I am including Part 4 of a five part series.

Hope you join us on LinkedIn. Please check out the other articles.

Cut and paste.

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Life Coaching Activities Monday Work

It's Monday.

How did you begin your day?

Recent research shows that 55% of workers are unhappy in the workplace. This may or may not be surprising to you. So how did you begin your day?

What were your thouhts about work?

Did you think or say, 'I got to go to work.' While possibly a true statement, it can set up negative thoughts and then feelings about going to work.

It can create a negative attitude toward the place you spend over 40 hours a week. Think about that. One quarter of your life right away is negative.

Try This

1. Find at least one positive at work each day.
2. Make sure to compliment one person at work each day.
3. When you are feeling not so positive SMILE...keep that smile on your face until you feel the negative rush out and the positive flow in.

For more Life Coaching Tips on this topic and others, checkout my Articles @ www.coachphyllis.com
Have a great week!

Coach Phyllis
www.coachphyllis.com

Life Work Balance. Are You Making It Work? Activities for Life Coaching

Good morning, well we are just about 2 weeks into the new decade, feeling balanced?

Last week I attended a Cirque Du Soleil show and was in awe of the balancing acts that were performed.I couldn't help but think about the amount of practice that went into this balancing act and the question came to mind, could we achieve such balance in Life and Work?

The answer I believe is yes but we too need to practice to create that Work Life balance. What I noticed is that each of the performers got their own act perfected before working with others. Can we learn from that? Do we need to focus on balance in our own life before we can feel the balance between work and life? Where do we start?


Planning, planning planning.

Questions to Direct Life Work Balance

1. What do I want in life this week, this month?
2. What do I have to do to make this happen?
3. What are my responsiblities in life and work?
4. Am I true to these responsibilities?
5. What else can I do to create the balance?
6. Are there adjustments I can make in my actions, attitude?
7. Am I being honest with myself?
8. What can I do today to feel better about my work?
9. What will the balnced life work look like?
10. Am I kind to myself? Do I reward myself when I accomplish tasks?

Life is not easy. It can seem very much like a balancing act, so why not develop the Balancing Skills to walk that tight rope?

Check my next blog or articles for Life Work Balance Activities.

Have a great day!

Coach Phyllis

www.coachphyllis.com

Life Coaching Activities for Successful New Year's Resolutions or Life/Work Changes

What is it about a New Year that causes us to reflect, rethink, re-evaluate, re-work our life and work?

We all want to achieve and be successful, that's just apart of being human. But we don't always have the skills to bring about that success. As a New Year's gift I offer you some simple, time tested skills or steps to make your re-work, work.

1. Set goals. Write them down. Make them do-able and appropriate to you.

2. Next break each of these goals into action steps. Very small steps. As many as you can.

3. Now set realistic time lines for these actions.

4. Hold yourself accountable. Display your plan. Place in an area so you can see daily.Tell a trusted friend. All of these help to keep you accountable.

5. Persist! Persist! This is key and where most people slip, fall and stay down. Recognize that there will be speed bumps along the way, even possible parking spots. Slow down, pull over but continue when you are ready. Don't give up.

6. Focus on your wins. Every step completed no matter how small is a win.

7. Reward you self. The reward system works.


Most of all you must truly desire your outcome. Really want the change to happen.

All the best with your life changes.

Coach Phyllis
www.coachphyllis.com